Connected!!!

 

Many times I wonder thinking about relationships and people in general. Like, how we meet people in life, how we have an instant connection with some and an immediate disconnect with some. Often, although unintentional,  we just end up judging people. Categorizing them, branding them, creating first(strong) impressions of people we hardly know. Judging someone based on the limited visibility we have of their life/lifestyle.

So all this connect I am talking about, per most philosophical and spiritual view points, it is all Karmic(call it Karma). We have to have some Karmic account balances with people from previous times (or janmas) to feel anything for a person. Which is what compels one to either get connected or disconnected in a moment. I believe in this thought process strongly. I feel that no one walks into our lives without a reason. Whether it is about liking someone, loving someone or hating someone. Each feeling certainly has a reason. We must learn to respect that feeling and move on.

Mother, father, spouse, children, family, friends all happen for a reason. Just like we don't get to chose our family, just like we don't get to chose our birth and death we don't get to chose friends and people we dislike. They all happen for a reason. Each and every relation/connection of a person to another is actually soul to soul connection.




Important encounters are planned by the souls long before the bodies see each other says Paulo Coehlo in his book "The Alchemist". So true. The encounters are planned so the souls can meet up and settle their past account dues(Karmic). This might explain to a certain extent why we tend to be judgmental about people without our knowledge. Why we block our minds at times not to accept anything beyond those first impressions.  Break that. Start accepting life as it comes. Start loving. Heart feels lighter and gives way to love. Like Maya Angelo quotes, Love is liberation. You love, you liberate your soul breaking the chains of negativity.

Back on the topic about connections with people, I have been fortunate to have some beautiful soul connections in my life. I found my soul mate, my best friends for life, my mentors, my gurus. Older than me, younger than me, very elderly, men, women even kids. Two of these relations are the most precious to me. I do not know what to call them. They are very special because really there is nothing common between us and we are 30 plus years apart from each other but still bonded somehow. A friend's mom (Sudha Aunty), another friend's sister(Mala garu).


Unfortunately Mala garu, is not in this world anymore physically. She saw me just once and instantly loved me. We would spend hours discussing all possible topics in the world from music to people to customs to Indian culture etc. and enjoyed each other's company so much for 2 years. Mala garu migrated to US about 42 years ago. She would miss me very badly if I did not call her for a week. I am not sure what bonded us so tight. She was in her 80s and I was in 30s. It just happened. I miss her a lot.

And then, Sudha aunty. This is a very special relationship. Because we loved each other even before we actually met in person. Just a small quick conversation over phone and that's it. We would talk over phone occasionally and no lengthy conversations, but there is some connection. Met her couple of times and when I see her eyes shine bright as soon as she sees me it gives me tons of energy. Fills me up with love. Aunty and me are 35 plus years apart.

Wonder what can I give back to all these people in return for being in my life. I just love them beyond imagination.

Recently had another such encounter. Latha and I have been friends for a while over social media but never got an opportunity(created an opportunity) to spend some good time. One meeting and we got connected so well with each other and felt very comfortable. We have no school connection, no city connection, no work connection nothing at all. Perhaps, just soul connection :) .

Latha, you made me think about this and made me put these thoughts in writing today after a long gap. Thank You :)


Stay Happy. Stay Peaceful. Stay Blessed.

Passing clouds

Unintentionally convoluted so deeply into the roller coaster of life , missed to capture many of  such emotions which were to be treasured in blogs like this. Here's a little something straight from the  heart on to the blog. Especially for those friends that constantly encourage me to write blogs. Thank you, you know who you are.

In a world where most of the relationships are more materialistic, more artificial, more synthesized and more based on analytical and logical reasoning, can there be a pure soul connection?  People come and people go. Each one teaching life lessons if we are willing to learn. Some people make lasting impressions while some we don't even remember. Some relations become very precious and some we don't know how we ended up there. Did you ever get into a situation in life where you asked yourself  - why me?

Wonder if anyone ever found answer to the - WHY ME - question.  

People say everything happens for a reason. 

If you believe in this thought then it becomes easier to handle tough situations. Also helps build acceptance of situations. If we have this level of acceptance, and if ever we get to a crossroad in life and do not know which is the right way to go then the inner strength will be so strong to show the way and give courage. The belief that everything ever happened or happening is for a reason is really really strong. All will be well at the end. If it is not well now then it is perhaps not the end. 

Each person that walks into our life has a specific role to play. Their character is limited per their creation. So when people do not meet our expectations we need to understand that our expectation is beyond limits.

I read somewhere that people are like clouds. And you as a soul are like the earth. You have to remain grounded. Clouds come and clouds go. Some condense even more and collide and fall as rain and reach you coz that's meant to be and other clouds just pass by. 

Some days in life are very cloudy while some other days are very dry. Sometimes there are those days when you have had too much of heat and when you least expect some un-season clouds just spread all over the sky with waves and waves of strong breeze that you would actually start expecting heavy rains. But either there will be a drizzle or , as you know, with too much of wind the clouds pass over clearing way for the beautiful sky to bring sunshine. So don't just get carried away with those transient moments my friends - for  Sunshine brings light into life than gloomy days of rain.

Have you ever experienced that moment in life when you feel like you are on top of the world and very quickly that feeling takes a complete turn, up-side down making you realize that it was actually a mirage - an illusion caused by hallucination of your thoughts. Thoughts -  because of some hidden desires or ambitions or sometimes because we are driven to it by some fake situations or fake words or fake people. As long as we remain grounded and are aware of the ground reality, we remain ourselves. But if this "fake"ness gets into us as a slow poison then it takes the same effect as poison which is the end of "you" or "me".  A strong blow of pain of reality is much better than a momentary false happiness.

After all clouds are meant to be passing by....people are meant to be passing clouds.